Our greatest lesson in this lifetime is to practice opening our hearts, even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts.
If your baseline is not joyful, peaceful, etc - it’s inevitable that you’ll be disappointed when someone doesn’t meet your expectation.
Listen to people when they tell you and show you what they want. Don’t hope it will change or wait around thinking they’ll have an AHA moment and change their mind. You set yourself up for suffering, to be on the side that chases and...
Perhaps a curse was to blame for my years of mini romances that never amounted to anything. So I did what any logical, empowered woman would do - I flew to Bali to get those damn chakras in check!
The plan consisted of a linear progression of relationship that looked like this: date, get married, have kids, stay together forever. They would do anything to keep that plan intact - even if that meant enduring abuse and sacrificing their needs.
Not all giving is created equal, as there are different roots of “giving”. The gift may appear the same on the outside, but the root of that gift creates completely different energy.
As I started to become more comfortable in my own skin, and more aligned in my values, I realized that I value being authentic more than being liked. And actually, I'm not sorry.
Loving yourself is not a destination. Loving yourself is a muscle you build. When we approach self-love as a way of living, rather than some elevated state of being, we can choose at this exact moment to start.
“I want a relationship. I’m ready to settle down with someone.” Bullshit. I'm calling your bluff and I’m guilty of lying too. On a conscious level, we think we’re ready – we want a meaningful connection, we want to share adventures with someone, we want...
Love is not a limited resource. You can have many different kinds of love, with different people. One is not better or worse, the dynamic is always unique in its own way.
When women get together, often this is what they talk about, and it's feeding a cycle that disempowers women. Are you guilty of this?
I think of "crazy" as what happens when we love the other person more than we love ourselves,
Don’t let someone who never had the intention or openness to receive your love harm your spirit. Someone else’s inability to see your essence does not make you any less lovable.
After a massive fight with my father last night, my first reaction was to get on a flight and leave. But in the mess of negative emotions that have been triggered, I realize that there's an opportunity here for me to evolve my communication and...
I’ve never been big on new years resolutions. Setting grand, lofty resolutions only to be forgotten weeks into the year may be well intended, but for the most part, are ineffective. I am a true believer that it’s the small, everyday changes we make that...
One of the first steps of establishing self-respect and garnering respect from others is to know your boundaries, and when/how to enforce them. Here are some tips on how you can harness the power of 'no'.
To determine if you are truly happy, ask yourself this question...
“In one week American teenagers spend 31 hours watching TV, 17 hours listening to music, 3 hours watching movies, 4 hours reading magazines, 10 hours online. That’s 10 hours and 45 minutes of media consumption a day.” - Miss Representation The media is beyond powerful....
If I were to have a frank tête-à-tête with my 20 year old self, here’s what I’d tell her:
You never know how a gesture, regardless of how small it may seem, can have such a profound and positive impact on someone else.
To the women reading this piece, the next time your inner self-critic takes over when you're looking in the mirror, I challenge you to stop the negative dialogue about your looks. I encourage you to instead of obsessing over how to become prettier, you ask...
Trust the process. Know that every heartache is just preparing you for the person you are meant to be with. Have faith that sometimes, things don't work out with someone in the present because they are meant to work with somebody else in the future.
You either have integrity or you don't. There is no such thing as having integrity part-time and only when it is convenient. Integrity is when your good intentions meet your actions - on a consistent basis.
We need to stop tearing down other women because in society's eyes, they aren't skinny enough, pretty enough or young enough. If we don't stop the vicious cycle, who will?
If I could tell my younger self, and even the woman today who often forgets, I would tell her, "love yourself more, and the rest will fall into place."
Don't let the story in your head about who you should be take away from the perfect, amazing person you are right now.
I was born a dreamer. Experience taught me to become a realist...
I read an interesting article titled, 5 Ways Modern Men Are Trained to Hate Women. Is it true? Is the root reason behind why some men cheat, abuse, use violence, salivate over strippers, and dehumanize the opposite sex, because of the way the way they...
Every birthday, I take time to reflect on the past year – my accomplishments, hardships and most importantly, the lessons learned. Because of all the mistakes and observations I made in my twenties, I've learned many lessons that I can now bring into my thirties......
This Valentine’s Day, forget the flowers, the chocolates, the fancy dinners or the lingerie. Forget the grand gestures. Forgo the typical. This Valentine’s Day, I want something different, something that takes a lot more effort and most importantly a daily choice. This Valentine’s Day I...
There was once a time that if I heard any of the following: "spirituality, inner peace, vegan, money doesn't buy happiness..." I'd nod my head while rolling my eyes thinking, "Enough of this new-age hippie stuff". I guess like most lessons in life, you don't...
We’ve all been there – feeling victimized by a friend, a boss, or a lover – who has treated us poorly or unfairly. It’s an easy and common tendency to blame the other, make yourself out as the innocent, while seeking out particular people who...
Choose to win. Choose to be better, every day. Try harder -- put in the effort and the hard work to make things happen for you. Aim further. If you settle for less or put a limit to how far you can go -- you...
Armed in stilettos from Manolo to Madden, females all over the world have been anticipating Sex and the City 2 to hit the theaters. I’ve been a long time fan of the sitcom and admit to many times rolling on the floor laughing all the...
Do you know how young someone can be when they start to contemplate harmful thoughts, such as suicide? For me, I was 10 years old. I was bullied at school so badly that I would cry everyday, and be scared from the minute the bell...
