Catch of the Week: Rory Hansen

Name: Rory Hansen

Occupation: Program Manager

What do you look for in a partner?

Modesty. It’s charming. Also, I value a relationship built on trust. I value confidence because I need someone strong enough in her own self-belief to stand confidently beside me.

Would you be comfortable if your girlfriend had a lot of guy friends?

It’s healthy to have friends of the opposite sex. However there needs to be a respect for boundaries. There are things that are romantic and intimate in nature that should be kept between lovers.

What’s a key lesson you’ve learned from a past relationship?

You have to give it your best shot. This means you have to compromise. But at the end of the day, despite your best efforts, if you’re still not compatible then you never will be.

Can chemistry develop?

Chemistry is a fickle thing, because timing can affect it so greatly. You can have it one day and not the next. Love is half timing. As a human being, you are changing over time. You go through stages in your life — you grow in your career, you are changed through experiences and you want different things at different times of your life. If you meet the right person who is at a stage that is at odds with yours, then it may not work as the timing is off. But if you meet the right person who’s at the same phase of life, then fireworks can happen.

How important are looks to you?

Looks are important to only an extent. Pretty is physical. Sexy is an attitude.

Do you believe in soulmates?

I’m looking for my soulmate. Soulmates are people you have chemistry with, where timing no longer matters — when chemistry transcends timing. It’s as if you’re in lockstep with each other.

Tips on how to approach women?

The only pick up line you need to know is “Hi.” It all starts with that one word. It doesn’t have to end with you asking for her phone number. Many (men) are afraid to approach women because they are afraid of rejection. You can avoid this — you don’t have to ask. You can have a conversation, pay her a compliment and leave that coffee shop smiling. Have enough of those interactions and once in a while you’ll walk away with a phone number too.

What’s your advice to those afraid of rejection?

It’s just perspective. The worse that she can say is no. That ‘no’ will impact you for mere seconds. You walk away feeling a little silly and seconds later you’re back to your normal self. Would I risk 10 seconds of shame to risk the opportunity to meet the woman I want to be with? Of course.